Crystals and Sacred Sites

I know it seems like I’m always super excited and gushing, but how excited was I to be given the opportunity to review the newest book by Judy Hall, the author of “The Crystal Bible”? The answer is, jumping up and down excited because as you may remember, I love minerals and gemstones. Judy Hall’s new book, “Crystals and Sacred Sites: Use Crystals to Access the Power of Sacred Landscapes for Personal and Planetary Transformation” does not disappoint.

Hall posits an intriguing theory. If you know the crystal or crystals associated with a location, you can align yourself with, connect with, and visit sacred locations. (Although I don’t see why you couldn’t use this for any location.) This means you learn about predictable locations such as Stonehenge and Glastonbury, but also unexpected spots like Pipestone National Monument in Minnesota and Lake Louise, Banff, Alberta Canada.

“Crystals and Sacred Sites” is oversized and entirely in full color. The images of the crystals are beautiful. This book is informative, thought provoking, and attractive. It’s equally at home on a shelf in your study or out on an end table as a picture book. “Crystals and Sacred Sites” is a welcome addition to category of books on crystals.

A diminished example of the beautiful work in Hall's book.

Wizard Hunters Needs You

Do you enjoy the original movies and television series on the SyFy network? Have you heard of the web series Wizard Hunters? If you haven’t checked it out, you’re missing out. Per their website:

Inspired by fantasy films like Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings, “Wizard Hunters: The Series” is a fantasy web series about Crystal, a young girl discovering that she plays a vital role in an extraordinary world she never knew existed. Set in our contemporary time, wizards, sorceresses, and vampires battle for control in a war that has been waging for centuries. “Good” and “Evil” find new definition and shades of ambiguity. As the series unfolds, several journeys of personal identity and love are discovered, lost, and avenged. It is an epic story told through high-action and special effects. “Wizard Hunters” is an intriguing ride for the whole family!

I was quite impressed by the level of special effects used. Wizard Hunters aren’t some guys who got together with a video camera to play at making a web series. This has some top notch special effects, a serious story line, great costuming, and some wonderful acting. I particularly enjoyed Bob Barr as Orion.

You can watch the first episode right here. It’s only five minutes and 21 seconds.

If you enjoyed what you saw, you should know TWO things. ONE, you can watch the rest of the series for free at www.WizardHunters.com. TWO, they’re currently trying to raise money to do a second season because doing free to watch episodes that look that sweet don’t come cheap. You can check out their Kickstarter to see what rewards you get for donating some cash to the cause here.

Goddess Guide Me

A couple of friends of mine took me on a birthday field trip to Northshire Books in Manchester, VT. While there I found a hidden gem; a used copy of “Goddess Guide Me: The Oracle That Answers Questions of the Heart” by Amy Zerner and Monte Farber. It was published in 1992 by Fireside Books, a subsidiary of Simon and Schuster.

This is a truly unique oracle compared to others I’ve seen. It’s a cardboard book and each page is divided into three parts; a top, middle, and bottom. When the pages are together, they form beautiful images of goddesses from around the globe. That’s thanks to Amy Zerner who is known for her fabric paintings.

The divided page represents Head, Heart, and Home. There’s text on each section. The head is about mental qualities attributed to each goddess. The heart focuses on purely emotional qualities attributed to each goddess. The home section focuses on the type of physical actions associated with each goddess and reminds you that emulating those actions can help you attain your goal.

So here’s what you do. “Goddess Guide Me” comes with three 12 sided dice. A purple one for head, a blue for heart, and a black one for home. You roll them and the number tells you how many pages to flip in the book. If you roll a 5 on the purple (head) die, you turn five head pages. In this case, it gets the goddess Freyja. A 9 on the blue (heart) die gets Lakshmi. An 11 on the black (home) die gets Atlantia. That’s totally neat, right?

There is a companion book that comes with it that gives you instructions on using the oracle, insight into the goddesses, and rituals.

“Goddess Guide Me” is an amazing tool that seems as relevant today as I’m sure it was when it was published in 1992. What publisher is going to step up and help make this fantastic oracle set available again?

Are You A Brewlywed?

Interested in being a Brewlywed? I know I am! I just about fainted in happiness when I received a press release for Sam Adams beer. Maybe I didn’t say that right, SAMUEL ADAMS BEER! Are you on board with the excitement level now? Excellent.

It turns out that the brewers over at Samuel Adams have created an ale with wedding bells in mind; Brewlywed Ale. According to the press release:

A distinct and complex brew, Samuel Adams Brewlywed Ale offers layers of flavor including fruit and honeysuckle notes from the Belgian yeast, sweetness from malt and citrus character from hops.

• This traditional Belgian-style bride ale combines the tropical, floral aromas of Stella and Summer hops with subtle hints of spice.

• Its light malt character and soft hop profile impart an upfront fruity taste followed by lingering notes of clove and honeysuckle from Belgian yeast. The Belgian yeast also imparts distinct flavors of spicy clove and tropical fruit character.

• At 8% ABV, Samuel Adams Brewlywed Ale is a medium bodied brew, deep golden in color with a slight unfiltered haze.

• This special brew finishes a little crisp from the wheat, with a citrus and fruity note on the palate and lingering hop finish.

At this point you may be wondering how you get this wonderful elixir, that’s the trick. It will be available for ONE DAY ONLY at the Samuel Adams Brewery in Boston, MA.

• WHERE: Samuel Adams Brewery | 30 Germania Street | Boston, MA 02130

• WHEN: Wednesday June 26, 7:00 a.m. – 1:00 p.m.

Attendees can begin lining up at 7:00AM

The first 20 people to arrive in bridal attire will be moved to the front of the line.

Purchase Samuel Adams Brewlywed Ale from 9:00AM to 1:00PM

Get wedding tips from The Knot editors and experts

Enjoy great music from a local wedding band

Sample delicious wedding recipes and beer pairings

Feeling adventurous? Get married at the Brewery and have Samuel Adams Founder and Brewer Jim Koch serve as your Best Man

Samuel Adams Brewlywed Ale will be packaged in decorated 750mL, cork-finished bottles; and available for $14.99 per bottle, or purchased by the case of 12 (maximum of 3 cases per purchase).

If any Buffet readers go, please send me pictures! I want to hear all about it! SAMUEL ADAMS!

The Yoga Back Book

To all my younger readers, take care of your back. You’ll appreciate the advice when you’re an old lady like me. Due to assorted health issues I can’t really do aerobic exercise so I’ve been doing yoga for a long time. In fact, I started it before the health issues! And yet, damn, my back. I finally started private yoga lessons with a professional teacher/trainer. The new routines have been great!

The horrible truth is, when it comes to our bodies, everything is connected. It took a professional yoga instructor to help me understand that and modify my routines. For you, could I suggest “The Yoga Back Book: The Natural Solution to Freedom From Pain” by Stella Weller?

Weller’s book is an amazing resource. She really explains to you the components of the back and how they work. No stone is left unturned as Weller discusses diet, ergonomics, posture, sleep, and of course yoga. The yoga poses are pretty basic and should be doable by beginners. That said, the more advanced practioner will recognize the importance of these cornerstone poses.

I have to say, I would readily recommend “The Yoga Back Book” to anyone who has back pain issues but also to any beginning yoga practioners.

Geek Month in Review: May 2013

Summer is coming.

Insect-like Robots
Very cool, and also little weird. Like every movie with a robot insect secretly watching someone.

47 Words That Might Not Exist
Ok, to be accurate, the book they were originally found in might not exist. Or at least the poor folks at the Oxford English Dictionary can’t find the book. It’s called “Meanderings on Memory”, published around 1859 and it appears to be the source of around 47 words in the English language. If, that is, it actually exists.

Island for Sale
In Scotland, mind you, one of the Summer Isles. It’s inhabited, so you’ll have neighbors, and it does have features (e.g. a post office and a cafe).

What Ancient Statues Really Looked Like
A little ultraviolet light and we can see that the ancient Greeks and Romans had …. really bad taste. Seriously, take a look. Scientists and art historians have used ultraviolet light to find what paints were used to cover those classic statues we all just assumed always looked like that. And it turns out that they were often a little … garish.

80,000 Applicants, 4 Positions, 1 Job: Mars
So remember that Mars One project I linked to in a previous Geek Review? No? Well, to sum up, there’s a Dutch company that plans on creating a permanent human settlement on Mars in 2023. They’re picking their permanent Mars residents out of a giant pool of online applicants, and they plan on making the selection process of the Final Four into a reality show to pay for the whole expedition. It’s so crazy, it just might work. Anyway, here’s an article talking about it, with a new version of the Mars One intro video.

Glow-in-the-Dark Trees
Really. Several enterprising scientists have a Kickstarter campaign going to fund glowing trees that will replace street lights. All the energy will come from regular old photosynthesis. Yes, we’re in the future now.

Their Kickstarter campaign:
Them answering questions on Reddit:

The Periodic Table Song
No, not the Animiacs. Didn’t they do a periodic table song? No? Well, I’m including their version of the Nations of the World song anyway. Also, damn! I’d forgotten how crazy that Animaniacs song is.

Nations of the World (Animaniacs):

Amazing Subway Stations
And the reason this article is in the Geek Review? Because half these places, which are “just” subway stations or train stations, resemble some retro future come to life. Check out the 1970s retro future, the 1980s retro future and the steampunk retro look.

Science-Fair Teenager Invents Super-Capacitor
It can lead to being able to charge a cell phone in 20-30 seconds, or an electric car in 30 minutes. Kids these days!

Plant Entombed in Ice Comes Alive
From the “wasn’t this an episode of the X-Files?” uh, files, scientists found a plant encased in ice during the Little Ice Age (about 400 years ago), and got it growing again. How neat is that? At least until they unearth the Killer Plant.

You Think That’s a Big Ship?
Nope, this one is. It’s the Maersk Mc-Kinney Moller, the largest ship in the world, at least it will be once it sets sail. It’s capable of carrying 18,000 20-foot shipping containers. Yeah, that’s a lot.

Warm Up the Cloning Tanks!
Scientists poked a frozen mammoth corpse and got viscous blood! Yup, it’s just a matter of time.

About John:
John’s a geek from way back. He’s been floating between various computer-related jobs for years, until he settled into doing tech support in higher ed. Now he rules the Macs on campus with an iron hand (really, it’s on his desk).

Geek Credentials:
RPG: Blue box D&D, lead minis, been to GenCon in Milwaukee.
Computer: TRS-80 Color Computer, Amiga 1000, UNIX system w/reel-to-reel backup tape
Card games: bought Magic cards at GenCon in 1993
Science: Met Phil Plait, got time on a mainframe for astronomy project in 1983
His Blog: http://glenandtyler.blogspot.com

Moonlight Tarot’s Question Corner: Mystical Answers to Mundane Inquiries

By Angela Kaufman, Moonlight Tarot LLC

May has arrived and so has spring in upstate NY! This month’s querent is a woman we will call “Tara”. She is awakening to signs of a quest are blooming all around her. Tara has been struggling to find a way to express her creativity through work. A very spiritual person by nature, Tara has been receptive to signs all around her that are urging her to pursue a personal quest. She has asked for help identifying the nature of her quest and preparing for this life transition.

The first card selected is the only Major Arcana chosen in her reading. It is the World card and is the final card in the tarot deck. The World is significant and indicates Tara is in a pivotal phase between accomplishment and new beginning. Tara may be experiencing internal restlessness knowing life has brought her opportunities to excel and advance, but that she has taken her past experiences to their maximal conclusion and a major change is just on the horizon. Like a college senior in their final semester, Tara is on a quest to gain the tools and knowledge she needs to advance herself and will then be called upon to launch her new identity and develop her new lifestyle. She will have to make some sacrifices for this quest. It seems that were things to stay as they are, Tara would be recognized as competent, capable….but stuck. It is going to become more and more evident to her that she has outgrown her surroundings and even some aspects of her identity.

In particular, there are four qualities; the four elements, four talents, or four interests, that Tara has developed mastery over and now needs to harness, balance and combine to launch her new lifestyle. Her quest involves honing in knowledge and interests already developed, but further refining, polishing and presenting them to others. Likewise, her passion and motivation has carried her far but at this stage the quest is asking her to channel this motivation to back up the message and knowledge she carries. Her emotional and nurturing side will help her cultivate relationships in this new aspect of her life and it will be important for her to moderate intensity of her desire with the finesse to draw the influence of others who will help her start this new phase of her journey. Finally, the fourth quality, the stable, grounded and structured framework which Tara must remain connected to in order to see her new lifestyle blossom. It seems balance and coordination are indicated. Tara is being asked to expand her horizons and will have to modify her expectations, continually rebalancing these four qualities along the way to show her best capabilities and develop her fullest potential. The quest will have come to full fruition within three years. The first phase is the gathering of awareness and information, the second is collaboration with others and this phase may require some compromise and sacrifice of personal vision to embrace the power of opposites, the third phase will require movement, action and expression of her creativity through the mundane world. The final phase will involve transcendence, movement above and beyond what she had initially expected.

She is also facing a significant ending, as all major beginnings must first see the clearing away of previous structures and framework. There may be aspects of the quest that will show Tara what potential lies before her so that she will not need to give such power to elements of her current routines that bring security and stability. She awaits opportunities for expansion and growth on a significant spiritual level although this will be enacted through her work in the mundane especially in nurturing four paths or four talents. It seems the time has come for Tara to embrace expansion by harnessing four talents or four influences in order to promote abundance in her new path.

The next card is the Ten of Swords. This is drawn to indicate a helping or guiding force and this card shares the significance of ending, culminating events or finality indicated by the World. The variation here is that mundane situations and people on the physical plane are represented and the indication is finality, but also rest, compromise, and a necessary albeit difficult termination. Tara has faced a long journey recently but her many hardships are also guiding forces in disguise. Amidst her trials she has found connections that have helped to motivate and prepare her. She will soon face a pivotal turning point. It will arise out of an ending or completion which feels exhausting and may even feel like a failure or defeat. Tara would do well to refrain from thinking in terms of loss and defeat. She has not lost, she has simply discovered that many of her previous pursuits brought more challenge than reward and she will be given the opportunity to put to rest a burden that she has long carried. Closure is needed in order for her new beginnings to emerge but this means laying down the burden of strife, and resolving acceptance of where she stands and what she has accomplished and gained in the process.

From this point she will be helped by an honest and open confrontation of her inner demons. An appraisal of her strengths, weaknesses and motivations will be necessary. This quest may also present more guidance and help from subtle, unseen or receptive sources than projective, active, tangible ones. By remaining open to the synchronistic opportunities even if they do not fit her plans at first, Tara will be guided and helped along her path. Those of a fiery temperament or active, inspirational, passionate nature will also be likely allies. There may be one particular friend or acquaintance who stands out as a significant assistant helping Tara to unburden her spiritual and physical load. The number ten will also be important. Ten months may be required for this path to unfold or the numbers ten or one surfacing along the way should be considered significant. The culmination of past actions will bring closure rather than bearing desired fruit, yet this closure is what will allow transcendence, moving forward having learned lessons stemming from long past. A release will be found in this quest, relief of a burden, happiness that a difficult trial has resolved. Helpful forces exist along the way but the overall theme is lessons through recognizing the role of choice, action and will in both creating and overcoming hardship and difficulties. Lessons from the past pave the way for the future. The spirit needs to be recharged and refreshed in order to pursue the future free of past burdens. It is advised that Tara attempt to use the imagery of fire to cleanse and clear past negativity, preconceived notions, and residue both from spiritual, personal and mental space. Tara would do well to close the door on the difficult path of swords by allowing herself to shed the skin of the fiery suit, allow the closure of the ten of Swords to return her to the vigor and energy of the Ace of Swords, the essence of motivation and action, that her spirit will be rejuvenated and move to the next phase in progression, the physical, earthy manifestation of Pentacles.

Finally, in looking for the source of challenge along the quest, the Six of Swords is drawn. It seems a resolution to a long standing issue is on the horizon, a journey now represented in somewhat physical forms- travel, change of scenery, movement and setting sights on new horizons all in the effort to start over renewed. It seems Tara will be accompanied by loved ones or at least will journey with their support. It seems that a change of scenery across or alongside water brings a brighter future, a positive resolution found by change of scenery and atmosphere. Tara may feel as if she is shortchanged or compromising, but it seems this is a necessary step in releasing her from the tension of the path she has been on. There may be some difficulty involved in travel or fear of unknown or unfamiliar surroundings that at first prohibits Tara from accepting this change. The Six brings resolution, relief and reconciliation. A reconnection to her personal past may be indicated here as well, even a compromise that allows her to heal connections to past friends or family so that she can continue into her future with full healing and reconciling of differences. Taken in total, it seems Tara’s quest is here to bring resolution and closure and so a natural grieving process may be taking place as Tara moves farther away from her past measures of security and identity, allowing the foundation she has laid and lessons she has learned to help her accept a change of scenery involving some compromise in plans or expectations but overall accomplishment and momentum forward where she has recently been stuck in transition finalizing one phase and awaiting another.

Best of luck to Tara on her quest. Remember, no matter where you are reading this, in accordance with NYS law all readings are intended for entertainment only.

Interested in being the Querent in next month’s column? Contact Angela at Trionfi78@gmail.com.

About Angela Kaufman:
Angela Kaufman has been exploring divination through Tarot cards for over a decade. She is a Certified Professional Tarot Reader and formed Moonlight Tarot in 2009 which would become Moonlight Tarot LLC in 2010. Angela uses the Tarot to assist clients in exploring personal growth and development, and in accordance with New York State Law offers readings for entertainment purposes. Angela began providing readings on a professional, “Moonlighting” basis in order to provide affordable readings to those seeking guidance, inspiration and fun. Angela is also co-author of the new book “Wicca, What’s the Real Deal? Breaking Through the Misconceptions.” (Schiffer Publishing, 2011). In 2006 she joined ISIS Paranormal Investigations and has accompanied the team on numerous investigations in private residences and businesses throughout the capital region, Adirondacks, Vermont and Massachusetts.

For more information on services offered by Moonlight Tarot LLC, visit http://www.moonlighttarotllc.com

Check out Moonlight Tarot on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/MoonlightTarotLlc

For more related to Tarot and Wicca, check out: Wicca, What’s the Real Deal? At www.wwtrd.webs.com

Want a chance to get a live Tarot Reading? Check out www.cafenolany.com for listing of Tarot events at Café Nola in Schenectady NY!

The deck used in this reading is the Hanson Roberts deck published by US Games Systems: http://www.usgamesinc.com/Hanson-Roberts_Tarot_Deck/ , for more on this deck visit: http://www.amazon.com/Hanson-Roberts-Tarot-Deck/dp/0880790792

Sublime Ease

by Ajayan Borys

Perhaps you have the impression that meditation is hard to do. It must be for a gifted few with orderly, peaceful minds, right? Nothing could be further from the truth. Meditation can be easy for anyone. In fact, as you’ll soon see for yourself, it has to be easy or it won’t work.

Yet this principle appears to contradict common sense: to achieve anything of value in this world requires effort. Just look around. Humankind’s greatest achievements — in science and technology, in building corporations, in the creative arts — have been the product of effort. And those who made the effort to discover, build, or create those achievements also made the effort to acquire the knowledge necessary to excel in their fields. When it comes to meditation, however, the only effort required is to make the time to do it. Granted, this can be a challenge in our busy, achievement-oriented society, but once you’re actually sitting down and you close your eyes and begin, no effort is required. In fact, effort at that point will land you further from success.

Why does effort yield positive results in nearly everything except the process of meditation? Simply put, achievement in the world is in the field of action, in the field of doing; meditation is in the field of being. Meditation is about doing less and less until you are doing nothing, simply being, abiding in the core of your innermost Self. At that point, the ego-mind, which is accustomed to always doing and trying, has temporarily dissolved. This is why meditation is effortless, why it must be effortless: the ego-mind can’t dissolve itself by doing. Doing only keeps it intact.

In this respect, meditation is much like falling asleep (another common case of shifting from the waking state to another state of consciousness). Consider what happens every night when you go to bed. You turn off the lights, lie down, and after some time passes, you fall asleep. When it comes, sleep comes effortlessly. Other than setting up the proper conditions for sleep — turning off the lights, lying down comfortably, and so on — you can’t do falling asleep. In fact, as every insomniac knows, the more you try to fall asleep, the more surely you will lie awake tossing and turning. Only when you completely forget about trying to fall asleep does sleep come.

The same holds true for meditation: making an effort to meditate only interferes with the process. You will have the best meditation when you approach it with the innocence of a child falling asleep. The child is simply tired, and so nature takes over and sleep comes, with ease. As Christ said, the kingdom of heaven is within you, and you must be as innocent as a child to enter it.

Throughout our lives we have all learned to make an effort to one degree or another in order to achieve our goals. This may bring us success in the world, but not peace or fulfillment. For fulfillment, both the inner and outer aspects of life need to be full. We must become as expert in the field of being as we are in the field of doing. This will not only bring inner peace and well-being, but it will also allow us to tap our full creative potential to be even more successful in our active lives.

About Ajayah Borys:
Ajayan Borys is the author of “Effortless Mind”. He has traveled the globe exploring human potential practices. The host of Mind Matters Radio on Alternative Talk Radio, he teaches workshops and retreats on meditation and spiritual relationships near Seattle and in the Himalayas. Visit him online at http://www.ajayan.com

Excerpted from the new book “Effortless Mind” ©2013 Ajayan Borys. Published with permission of New World Library http://www.newworldlibrary.com

Hiccups and Hurricanes: Bouncing Back from Life’s Challenges

By Linda Graham

We are all called upon to cope with hiccups and hurricanes in our lives — losing our wallet and car keys, discovering mold in the bathroom, missing three days at the office to care for a sick child — and we do. We are resilient heroes in our own lives every day as we skillfully navigate the disruptive, unwanted changes of the washing machine going on the fritz or the car needing a new transmission.

Occasionally we have to respond with grace under pressure to greater troubles and tragedies: infertility or infidelity, a diagnosis of pancreatic cancer, losing a job, a son wounded in combat overseas.

The way we can bounce back from such everyday disappointments and extraordinary disasters is through resilience – capacities innate in the brain to respond to the inevitable twists and turns in life flexibly and adaptively.

Modern neuroscience is revealing how we can harness the brain’s capacities of neuroplasticity to rewire our habitual patterns of response to strengthen what I call the 5 C’s of coping:

1. Calm: You can stay calm in a crisis.

2. Clarity: You can see clearly what’s happening as well as your internal response to what’s happening; you can see what needs to happen next; and you can see possibilities from different perspectives that will enhance your ability to respond flexibly.

3. Connection: You can reach out for help as needed; you can learn from others how to be resilient; and you can connect to resources that greatly expand your options.

4. Competence: You can call on skills and competencies that you have learned through previous experience to act quickly and effectively.

5. Courage: You can strengthen your faith to persevere in your actions until you come to resolution or acceptance of the difficulty.

More than 80 exercises in Bouncing Back allow you to do this rewiring safely, efficiently, effectively. The tools and techniques drawn from mindfulness practices and relational psychology create and accelerate brain change and strengthen the parts of the brain we need to cope. You recover a deep resilience and well-being that will last a lifetime.

An example:

Keep CALM and Carry On

The fastest way to regulate the body’s stress response and return to a sense of calm is to activate the release of oxytocin in the brain. Oxytocin is the neurotransmitter of safety and trust and is the brain’s direct and immediate antidote to the stress hormone cortisol. Oxytocin can be thought of as the neurochemical foundation of resilience.

The fastest way to release oxytocin and mitigate stress is through safe touch in a soothing relationship. Fortunately, neuroscientists have demonstrated many times that even remembering or imaging someone we love and by whom we feel loved is enough to release small but regular doses of oxytocin.

Exercise: Hand on the Heart

We come into steady calm by experiencing moments of feeling safe, loved, and cherished and letting those moments register in our body and encode new circuitry in our brain. This exercise offers a way to evoke those feelings.

1. Begin by placing your hand on your heart, feeling the warmth of your own touch. Breathe gently and deeply into your heart center, taking in a sense of calm, peace, goodness, safety, trust, acceptance, and ease.

2. Once that’s steady, call to mind a moment of being with someone who loves you unconditionally, someone you feel completely safe with. This may, of course, be a partner, child, or parent; but if the dynamics of those relationships are complicated and the emotions mixed, you may choose any true other to your true self: a dear friend, a trusted teacher, a close colleague or neighbor, a therapist, your grandmother, a spiritual figure like Jesus or the Dalai Lama, or your wiser self. Pets are also great for this exercise.

3. As you remember feeling safe and loved with this person or pet, see if you can sense in your body the positive feelings and sensations associated with that memory. Really savor a feeling of warmth, safety, trust, and love in your body.

4. When that feeling is steady, let go of the image and simply bathe in the feeling itself for thirty seconds. Savor the rich nurturing of this feeling; let it really soak in.

The Neuroscience:

Breathing deeply, gently, and fully activates the calming branch of our autonomic nervous system, the parasympathetic branch. The parasympathetic modulates the body-brain’s fight-flight-freeze response when we feel threatened or agitated. Breathing, or pranayama, has been a core practice in yoga and meditation to relax the body and steady the mind for over 3,500 years.

Breathing positive emotions into the heart center steadies the heart rate, restoring the equilibrium of the body so that we can remain present and engaged. In evoking a memory or image of feeling loved and cherished, we evoke a sense of safe connection with others; the oxytocin immediately
reduces our stress. That evocation also activates the prefrontal cortex, which triggers the hippo-campus to search for explicit memories of moments when we have been held, soothed, protected, encouraged, believed in, times when we have reached out for help and received comfort and support

Through safety and trust in connection, we come back into our baseline equilibrium. From there, with our higher, thinking brain calm and alert, we can mobilize quickly, act skillfully, and take care of business.

About Linda Graham,MFT:
Linda Graham, MFT, is a licensed psychotherapist and meditation teacher in full-time practice in the San Francisco Bay Area. She integrates her passion for neuroscience, mindfulness, and relational psychology through trainings, consultations, workshops, and conferences nationally. She publishes a monthly e-newsletter, “Healing and Awakening into Aliveness and Wholeness”, and weekly e-quotes on resources for recovering resilience, archived at www.lindagraham-mft.net.

Based on the book “Bouncing Back”. Copyright © 2013 by Linda Graham. Reprinted with permission from New World Library. www.NewWorldLibrary.com.

What Can You Say When Your Hero Dies?

What can you say when your hero dies?

For most of my life my female heroes were fictional. Seriously. Right into adulthood. I don’t know if it showed a lack of worldliness on my part (it probably did), but I’m a product of equal parts movie, television, and comic book women. However all of that changed when I saw the “Cancer” episode of “Penn & Teller’s Bullshit”.

That episode featured a woman named Barbara Brenner who represented an organization called Breast Cancer Action. She was bold, witty, and really didn’t seemed to care that she was on television. You could tell that what she was saying, she would say whether the camera was on or off. That got me to investigate Breast Cancer Action.

Those of you who have read this site for a while know what happened, I became a vocal supporter of the organization. Every October I highlight Breast Cancer Action’s Think Before You Pink campaign and I also will occasionally post about other important work that they’re doing. This is all because of Barbara Brenner, who became my first real life female hero. Because of her Breast Cancer Action’s work was above reproach and they are able to speak truth to power.

Brenner, already having overcome breast cancer, left Breast Cancer Action in 2010 after being diagnosed with ALS (amyotrophic lateral sclerosis), more commonly known as Lou Gehrig’s disease. Even when she lost the ability to talk, she used text to speech software so her voice could be heard. She quickly became a known figure in the ALS activist community and still stayed involved to a certain extent with breast cancer issues as well. She started her own blog “Healthy Barbs” where she discussed her challenges.

Barbara Brenner passed away on May 10, 2013. And again, and again, I found myself asking, what can you say when your hero dies? Then at once I knew.

It’s only when a hero dies, that they can become a legend.

If you wish to honor Barbara Brenner and all the good that she stood for, she asked that in lieu of flowers donations may be made to the Barbara Brenner Rapid Response Fund at Breast Cancer Action.

If you want to learn more about Barbara Brenner, here are a couple of wonderful tributes:

http://bcaction.org/2013/05/11/in-memoriam-barbara-a-brenner-1951-2013/

http://breastcancerconsortium.net/in-honor-and-memory-of-barbara-brenner/