The Lou Gentile Show

Well this time the latest exploits of The Magical Buffet didn’t even require us to leave the house! It is a shame, since it’s a good excuse for a meal out…but we saved a ton of money on gas for the car! Our latest Moveable Feast was The Lou Gentile radio show! That’s right, someone out there thought it would be a good idea to let me speak live to an audience. They don’t know me too well, do they?

So here’s the skinny, on Wednesday November 29, 2006 I was the featured guest on The Lou Gentile Radio Show. For those of you unfamiliar with Mr. Gentile and his show, it is an online radio show where he and his guests discuss the paranormal, religion, and other fun. Mr. Gentile sustained a serious back injury not too long ago and has been unable to host many of his current shows; he has been having Cari Stone fill in as host while he recuperates. Cari is an online radio celeb in her own right, being the co-host of her own daytime online radio show aptly titled, The Cari Stone & C.J. Sellers Show. Enough back ground, here’s the scoop!

The Lou Gentile Show, in my opinion, is most easily accessed through his website. What’s cool about the set up is that you can register for free and gain access to their neat chat room. I had signed up a while back and occasionally listened to previous shows and hung out briefly in the chat room. However, nothing prepared me for Wednesday night, when I logged in, clicked to listen to the previous night’s show that was re-airing, and bam! The chat window popped up with a photo of me next to it advertising that I was tonight’s featured guest! That is when the nerves started. Oh, and did I mention I got a flu shot that morning so I felt all achy and feverish? Well, I now I did.

There I was in the chat room with ESPecial. Needless to say, it did not take him long to figure out that RebeccaE was the Rebecca Elson of that night’s upcoming show. Despite the impression people may have gotten from smart alecky comments made, ESPecial and Lind who where both there well before my show did a great job of making me feel relaxed and welcomed. A lot of the fun I had came from knowing they were there. And speaking of people being there for me, once again proving he is my paranormal partner in crime, Merill of the NNYPRS showed up in the chat room and immediately set up a private message box to give me a steady stream of encouragement. (Don’t know what the deal is with the NNYPRS? Check our A Moveable Feast: NNYPRS.) The show starts at 8pm Eastern Time. At eight on the dot, the phone rang. My husband Jim was nice enough to inform me that it was for me.

That’s when I first spoke to the host Cari Stone. She was incredibly friendly as she asked who I was and what I did. When I told her that I personally didn’t do a whole lot, that’s when she had to have realized that she was screwed. But being the out going professional that she is, she didn’t let a little thing like lack of actual first hand knowledge on my part keep her from assuring me that we would have a lot of fun and that it would be a great show.

Then it started. And before I knew it, an hour had passed. I’m not sure if anyone else had a good time, but Cari and I quickly started derailing our own radio show to discuss issues that we found important, such as saying the word worm was fun. However, more fun than squeegee or kumquat? We just weren’t sure. She quickly realized that I was good for two sentence answers, and I tried encouraging listeners to only ask yes or no questions. I was surprised to learn from Jim, who was monitoring the chat room, that it seemed like people were enjoying themselves. A very interested listener named Danny posed all kinds of questions to the chat room about things that I liked or was learning about, making him a fave with me. People were asked to call in, and of course, Merrill did. Not only did he ask a question that he knew I could answer somewhat intelligently, he took the time to tell everyone listening how great I am. (It’s easy to see why he’s my partner in crime!) The next thing I knew, two hours had gone by and the show was over.

After we went off air, Cari assured me that I did fine and that she had a lot of fun. She was very funny and has a wicked sharp wit like myself causing me to adore her instantly and be sad to have to say good-bye. I made sure to stress to her that if she ever needed someone to fill airtime in the future, to let me know. Nevertheless, I have to say, although humorous, I’m not the ideal guest for a radio show so I wouldn’t look for me to be the next big thing in the online radio community.

To learn more about Lou Gentile and his show, visit: www.lougentile.com.

The Art of Telling a Ghost Story

by David Pitkin

Long before the human past was recorded in writing, tales of the heroic and mysterious experiences of the ancestors were being told around campfires. In this way culture, values and a sense of wonder were passed on. Even in our more modern and “scientific” times, Americans love to sit and listen to tales of the supernatural, stories that push the envelope of imagination.

In my ten-year experience as a teller of ghost stories, I’ve discovered that most attendees have had an unnerving, perhaps ghostly, experience of some sort. So, it is a ghost story teller’s dream, to have an audience with the proper “mind set” before the first word is spoken. The listener most enjoys a tale that might easily have happened to them, whether or not it is true. There is an extra chill, however, when I bring my history teacher’s background and skepticism to the talk. I pass on only those stories that my research suggests are true.

Thus, people enjoy stories that feature the individual, be it a child, housewife, soldier or businessman…someone like them. In this way, they can identify with the thrill of each word, imagining or remembering their own experiences with the uncanny. Thus, in setting the scene, my stories usually begin with the state or country where the tale originates, and from there, we go to the town or city, then down to the neighborhood, store or dwelling. By the time I am describing the house, church, business place or school, everyone is hooked, even though many are still trying to remain objective.

In every audience there are those who desperately want to have their boundaries of thought and experience breached. They hope for an adrenaline rush or chill as they identify with the protagonists of the story being suddenly confronted with mystery. The location of each individual’s boundary lies in a different place. Some hope for a tale so horrific that they will not dare to fall asleep at night; others expect only to be intrigued by the story’s elements. So, a recitation of the facts of a story might terrorize one individual while bringing only a slight smile to the face of another. My motivation in storytelling is not to create fear in my listeners, though some depart from the story session scared. No, my aim is to speak (often humorously) about the often-usual death and reappearance of a person just like us.

Years ago, I chose not to try scaring people because today’s headlines can do that job better than I. My motivations are to speak about death and its survival by some part of the departed human personality. Often, audience members are wide-eyed when I recount stories from my personal experience, as I’ve seen, heard, touched, been touched, walked through, and smelled entities that are apparently ghosts. And I have had many dream contacts that I deem genuine. Yet, ghosts hint that what we call life or consciousness does go on despite bodily death. And, as this process happens no matter how horribly an individual dies, I tend to recount the episode in a humorous way; what is there to be scared of?

While stating the known facts of any story, one has to avoid too much dogmatism. It seems not wise to force the listener to a conclusion. Ghost stories are far more effective and entertaining if the speaker provides the known facts of the case, then lead the listener to draw his/her own conclusions. When the audience arrives at a scary finale within themselves, it seems that the outcome of the storytelling is much more satisfactory to them.

Human beings the world over are more alike than unalike, so that a good story should be able to translate to other cultures. An example of this is the “hitchhiker ghost,” a genre of ghost tales. In these tellings, the protagonist is always driving or sailing along blissfully and encounters (with many variations) a stranger. The stranger is in need of transportation from that spot to another and the traveler offers to help. Again, with so many alterations, the stranger always tells a brief story and then disappears; leaving the subject shaken when the traveler learns the story was true. This type of story is found in cultures worldwide. Likewise, there are the “murdered peddler stories” throughout eastern America.

It seems necessary that the effective storyteller must involve the listener’s emotions and not just their intellect, as it is in the feelings that we are most vulnerable and sensitive. A strictly non-emotional recitation of an episode’s facts will eventually put an audience to sleep. Good emotional stories, as Hollywood knows, touch us where we live.

The listener, as hero or heroine of his/her own life, almost always identifies with the traveler, as that is essentially the role we all play in life. Then, when, at story’s end, the traveler discovers that such a person did, in fact, exist and often met some horrible end, the listener is first shocked, then immediately grins or laughs out loud at the implausibility of it all. Later, reflecting on the story, the individual may draw certain philosophical conclusions and attempt to refute the apparent truth of the tale.

Ghost stories, as well as stories in general, are most effectively told, I think, if the storyteller moves about while talking, engaging each listener eye-to-eye. Gestures are another part of the story’s effectiveness for some reason, though I haven’t fully discovered why. Bodily movements are ages-old devices for speakers, and this lesson is not lost on modern-day politicians.

There is another quality residing in listeners which often makes the storyteller seem greater or wiser than he/she is. Each of us has a wealth of experiences and memories secreted in our unconscious mind. Each individual also possesses an almost totally forgotten fund of dream scenarios, images and early-life experiences. Therefore, each listener at a storytelling event (especially on occasions where the basic issues of life and death are related) brings more to the experience than they realize. Good storytelling energizes that hidden or forgotten part of our self, and thus the recited tales seem credible.

My experiences with parapsychology and counseling psychology have taught me much about the universal self or soul that transcends the single lifetime. If indeed, as I suspect, there is a much greater purpose to life than America’s search for constant amusement, then there must be an “operations center” within us that continually seeks new connections to truth and profound meaning. In the midst of a good story experience, I believe, that hidden part of us is energized. Therefore, no two listeners will hear the same story. Each takes away from the episode a different realization, conclusion or lesson. It is as if an artist painted a scene containing several elements, and each viewer at the gallery enjoyed and remembered a different item afterward.

In the end, good stories and good storytellers can help us connect with that which is universal and transcendent in us all. The greatest mystery is not so much the ghost stories I love and love to tell, as it is the eternal quest for a lasting meaning that we have pursued through time.

As a retired teacher of world cultures and religions, Pitkin taught 36 years in NY State schools. In 1974, following a major illness, he began a quest for enlightenment in parapsychology and developed an expertise in numerology. He had visited a haunted barn in 1968 and, following a study of the Riley House in Saratoga Springs, NY, became a dedicated collector of the details of hauntings. Traditional religions, he found, offer little constructive information about the souls trapped between the physical realm and the eternal, spurring him to write his successful “Saratoga County Ghosts” in 1998. Now a widely-sought after speaker, he has appeared frequently throughout the eastern United States.

NNYPRS

After a full day at work my husband Jim and I set off for fun and adventure in Malone, NY. We had been invited to a Friday the 13th party to benefit the Northern New York Paranormal Research Society, also known as NNYPRS. So after a rushed meal at our local Moe’s (Tip for the Traveler: A rushed meal of quasi Mexican food is NOT the way to start out a 3 hour drive! There was a lot of burping going on!) and a quick stop to fill up the tank we hit the road.

The drive up north started out beautiful. Northern NY has lovely views of foliage and suddenly Jim and I understood why someone would drive somewhere just to look at leaves. Then it got dark. The roads got curvy going through the mountains, and our MapQuest directions became more and more questionable. Fortunately, Merrill McKee, President and Co-Founder of the NNYPRS, had emailed me his preferred directions and they got us to our luxurious Super 8 accommodations without issue.

Once we got our stuff situated at the hotel, it was time to meet Merrill and his team members face to face for the first time. The benefit was held at a restaurant/bar called Spotted Willy’s. Jim and I had no idea what to expect from this place. The restaurant portion was very attractive and the food smelled wonderful, the party was held in the back tavern which was rustic and cozy, complete with a functional fireplace.

This was where Jim and I met Merrill, Angie, Dale, Dave, Nick, and friends of the NNYPRS. It’s clear to see they are a group of people that take paranormal investigation seriously, and try not take life as seriously. Merrill was an outgoing host and also was the provider of the entertainment since he owns the DJ company that was playing music and offering up karaoke. Let me tell you that Merrill and his wife Angie are fantastic singers! Jim and I were both incredibly impressed at Angie’s vocal stylings! To help raise some money there were raffles for a free session with Dale, NNYPRS co-founder and resident psychic, $100 off the DJ services of M-n-M Entertainment, which is Merrill’s DJ company, and for a $20 gift certificate for Spotted Willy’s. Needless to say, I bought 4 tickets in the hopes of a reading with Dale! Unfortunately, it was not meant to be. All in all it was a casual event where alcohol was consumed, music was played, and conversations were had. At 11pm, which is way past my bedtime, Jim and I headed back to the Super 8 to rest up for the following days big event, the “Metaphysically Speaking” gathering where Merrill was going to be the guest speaker.

I woke up to silence. The kind of deep silence that tells you something is wrong. I rolled over to see what time the digital clock had, and it was black. That’s right, the power went out. Jim and I attempted to get a good nights rest after that revelation, but we both tossed and turned and essentially slept like crap. At 7am there was still no power! After some discussion of what this could mean, we decided to get dressed and head over to Massena, NY where the “Metaphysically Speaking” group was meeting and hopefully there was power. As we got closer to Massena we started to notice lights. With great relief we pulled into Spankie’s to have a greasy diner breakfast.

“Metaphysically Speaking” is a group that meets once a month at the public library in Massena, NY. The group is coordinated by Bob Leboeuf, an incredibly friendly man who is well versed in metaphysics and the hosting of this event. The event runs from 1pm to 4:30pm with a half hour break in the middle. Merrill was the guest speaker. He did a brief introduction of his organization and what they do and then opened the floor to questions. The group quizzed him on topics as close to what he does as how to identify hauntings, to as incredibly unrelated as dream interpretation. Merrill handled all the questions with great enthusiasm and demonstrated an extensive knowledge of all things paranormal, but also in most things metaphysical as well. Even with no sleep Merrill was able to keep me engaged and entertained.

Jim and I had a great time and made some wonderful friends, but at 4:30 the road was calling and we had to start the 4 hour journey home. At the end of the day, we were exhausted but happy to have made the trip.

To learn more about the Northern New York Paranormal Research Society visit: www.nnyprs.com

If you need a great DJ in upstate NY visit: www.mnmdj.com