The King and I

By Angela Kaufman

I have worked with valuable coaches who have helped me grow. Yet one stands out above the rest.

He doesn’t mind when I call seek his guidance at odd hours. He is available via the written and spoken word, and when all else fails I can watch his videos on YouTube.

His advice has been priceless both in my personal life and in adding to my understanding of humanity and relationships. As an Intuitive Relationship Coach, I reference his work frequently. Even when I worked in the clinical field I encouraged my clients to seek out his books.

I have paid him very little over the years for the wisdom he has given me, and perhaps even more strange, he does not even know I exist, and I am ok with that.

My long-distance-Mentor is Stephen King.

Once considered the Master of Suspense, King has emerged into something more, at least in my view. Yes, we typecast, and titles are deceiving. Stephen King is the Master of Social Commentary. He has a brilliant knack for reflecting the conflicts of his time.

The first Life Lesson from the King is that we all are on a path of evolution and must allow each other space and time to grow without judgment. Contrast one of the early works written under the pen name Richard Bachman with a more recent and “sober” work like 11/22/63 and the growth is evident.

Not only are there significant shifts in the tone, attitude and depth of King’s works as time goes on, but his characters seem to “grow up” as well. Thus we are reminded not to judge a person by their struggles, but to give them space to grow, or falter, on their path.

Life Lesson 2- Each Individual Possesses a Dual Nature.

King’s characters are, for the most part, complex. He is a master of illustrating the depth of humanity. Very few of his characters are outright evil and even the bad-ass bullies (Ace and his crew from “The Body”, the greaser youths from “It”, and the kids from “Carrie” for example) illustrate social injustices and are products of their culture and times. This is also apparent in King’s characterization of historical figure Lee Harvey Oswald in his fictional depiction for 11/22/63. By portraying the connection between cultural context, early upbringing (domestic violence, alcoholism, incest, poverty, racism to name a few) with antisocial and cruel behavior later on, King provides a psychological framework for characters who have a dirty job which someone has to do. That job is to hold a mirror up to society and individuals and reveal the Shadow side within us all and the dark side of our culture. The “monster” within comes alive in the obsessive, deranged killers of his stories.

Of course his stories seldom feature the bad guy acting alone. There is typically a supernatural element, an abstract “Hand of Fate” which serves to tempt (or push) a fundamentally wounded character over the edge. In It it is the entity Pennywise, representation of the corruption and denial of small town America, which corrupts the mind of the already desperate and unstable, tempting them with seduction of fame, power, revenge etc. A similar phenomenon occurs in The Stand. In this story as well, the battle lines between the righteous and the depraved is a fine line carved by a combination of free will and the failing nature of human desire. The insecurities that would tempt some characters to betray their morals, and each other, to serve the entity personifying evil (Randall Flagg) while other characters, while obviously flawed, find the will to follow a higher calling and follow the path of light, embodied by Mother Abigail.

This brings us to the 3rd Life Lesson from Stephen King. We all have choice and free will and at any given moment we have access to a number of guides who will serve our higher purpose, if only we will occasionally quiet the ego to listen.

King’s characters repeatedly encounter special mentors, guides and teachers. Danny Torrence from the Shining is serendipitously connected to Dick Halloran (the hotel Cook) who recognizes his ability to “shine” and in the sequel, Dr. Sleep, Danny himself becomes mentor to another youth named Abra. King’s characters often don’t realize they are seeking a special kind of assistance until their talents, or needs are met by those they encounter synchronistically. The same occurs in reality and when we open to intuitive guidance and attraction dynamics, we allow powerful connections to be made without the cumbersome presence of ego to get in the way. The examples of this are too numerous to list individually, so pick your favorite Stephen King story and this pattern will be evident.

Life Lesson: Suspense can be a good thing….

More Life Lessons from the King to come as this series continues.

About Angela Kaufman:
Angela Kaufman is Your 21st Century Relationship Psychic. As an Intuitive Relationship and Empowerment Coach Angela is passionate about helping modern women interpret their lives and world through a more intuitive, Spiritual lens. While recognizing that Spirit speaks to us in many ways, even through the writing of a novelist from Maine.
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